As far as I’m concerned – there are 3 shapes to being pregnant, and your normal shape – doesn’t count.
Shape 1: “Is she pregnant? Is she fat?”
When your belly is kind of starting to grow, you still fit into your clothes, but clearly – they’re getting tighter. Hopefully you’re finished feeling like crap, but now you’re wondering – where the hell is this “pregnancy glow”? Maternity clothes still feel like tents, you still can’t fully believe you’re pregnant because there are no baby kicks yet. It’s this weird stage of limbo – at least in my mind – that’s not what pregnant women are. They’re nice and plump and full of life. Not exhausted and kind of fatish… Right? =)
Hardly pregnant Pea In The Pod model in a super gorgeous dress!
Shape 2: “Perfect pregnant lady from the catalogs”
Usually happens around your second trimester. You’re full of energy all of a sudden. The sun is shining out of your belly. People are getting all excited because now it’s definitely clear you’re expecting. Doors are being opened, seats are being vacated. This is the best phase – when you’re pregnant you can get away with so much stuff and at this point you can actually enjoy it.
Look at this perfect belly! (Another Pea In The Pod model). This is the type of image everyone automatically thinks of when they hear “pregnant”, right? As soon as you see that positive test – this is how you start picturing yourself… unfortunately – you’re only about a third right..
Shape 3: “Ballooning cow” or “when’s this baby coming out”.
Suddenly – maternity clothes are getting tight as well! Stretch marks might pop out around this time. All the discomforts seem to be multiplying, you’re sleeping not as well, which means – you are more tired, maybe even exhausted. And suddenly those perfect b****s from the maternity clothes catalogs are kind of making you a little more sad. I think this is where you start letting go of your sense of self. Each and every day it becomes less and less about you, and more and more about the baby. And it might be a little annoying now, and you might want to scream – “hello! I’m the pregnant lady here!!! I’m the one toting all this weight around! he/she isn’t even doing anything! Besides giving me heart burn and all kinds of other physical discomforts”. (Sometimes he kicks so hard at night – the bed shakes. No joke!) But pretty soon you will join the rest of the world and you too will be all about the baby and not so much about yourself.
And because I’m not about to label anyone as a “ballooning cow” – I will use my own photo to demonstrate this stage. I love you all, but you can’t tell me I could in any way pass off for the perfect-belly girl from stage 2. Not saying my belly is not perfect ;) but it’s definitely bigger!
So, clearly – I have entered into shape 3. Up through shape 2 – I was rocking it. I think its fair to say – I was actively enjoying this pregnancy vs the first one – when I was just kind of cruising by, waiting to see what’s around the next corner.
And then BOOM, shape 3, and I’m left wondering – will I have to be wearing sweatpants for the next two months? No thank you! But at the same time – suddenly who’s got time for looking cute? Some days I get this debilitating pain in my side for about half the day – sweatpants sound just fine. But – don’t worry. I’m not giving up that easily ;)